On occasion I miss a few headlines. On occasion I also intentionally ignore a few headlines, but that is neither here nor there. While attempting to learn more about the American Indian LGBTQI Community, I stumbled upon several headlines that I do not recall seeing previously. These were headlines that I felt had gone unnoticed and the fact that such major decisions and moments had been overlooked and that countless Twitter Chats had yet to be held to discuss such issues was astonishing.Read More
Don’t Say Anything Offensive: The Silencing of Queer Women of Color in America’s Social Justice Movements
Social justice movements are notorious for having several moving parts. While participating in and watching coverage of the many movements sweeping the nation, it has become obvious to me that one of those moving parts is the silencing of women, specifically Queer Women of Color.Read More
Proverbs 29:18 says that, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” Now, I am not your typical holy-rolling Bible thumper and I am not writing this post to preach to anyone, but as I continue to work on my own vision board and have conversations with close friends, I find that many people are perishing. People are merely existing and creating more regrets than memories because they have no end goal in sight. While the act of creating a vision board may be somewhat “new age,” the concept of vision is far from new. We learn a lot about ourselves when we become clear on our vision for our lives. Though many of us believe that we are ultimately living out the divine plan that some higher being or entity has for us, it is important that we do not merely exist, but find our life’s purposes and govern ourselves accordingly.
We all find our purpose in different ways and our paths never look quite the same, but the one thing that we all have in common is the creation of goals. Every one of us has a goal. It may be something small that is only significant to you, or it may be a detailed plan on how to save the world or start your own business. Either way, the order of your goals and your ultimate results from those goals are part of your vision. We have to stop looking at goals as things on our ever-growing “to do list” and start really paying attention to what our goals and experiences tell us about ourselves and the lives that we are meant to live. Too many times we get sidetracked by our age, by our self-imposed deadlines, and by the anxiety that comes from comparing ourselves to others. Too many times we forget that what comes to us – in our dreams, in nature, in our hearts and minds – is there for a reason. It is something that we need to know or see. It is a lesson that we need to embrace and apply. Vision is not meant to be something that makes you feel negatively about yourself. Vision is meant to provide you with goals, to give you that push or encouragement you need when things are not going as planned or when you feel disappointed. With vision you are continuously reminded of your purpose and vice versa.
Though I am far from a goal aficionado and my vision board had to go through multiple phases before I started to really get a sense of order and clarity to my life, I feel like my mistakes are something that should be shared so that, hopefully, I can prevent other people from having to wander through the wilderness before finding their clearly marked path. Below you will find a few of my tips relating to curating your vision and understanding your purpose.
1. Define success and happiness for yourself. Post your definition somewhere where you will see it often. Make sure that the things you are doing or planning speak to these definitions. Do not become consumed with other people’s definitions. Their life is not yours to live.
2. Ask for help, then pay attention to the signs around you and the insight provided by others. These are your answers. Write down significant quotes. Document dreams or thoughts that come to you while meditating. Never overlook or dismiss those people or things that are meant to guide you. Answers are everywhere.
3. Set 5 major goals that you want to accomplish at some point in life. Divide multiple goals into 5 categories if you have to. Track your progress. Some people suggest setting deadlines for each goal, but that practice just gave me anxiety. Do what works for you. Remember this list. Revisit it as your perspective changes and you find clarity regarding your life’s purpose.
4. Use affirmations. Speak things into existence. Speak positive things over yourself even if you are not quite able to fully believe them or believe that they will happen just yet. Be open to how things develop. Do not be so specific in your planning that you do not leave room to have your mind blown.
5. Celebrate your victories, regardless of how big or small they are. Your life is not solely about crossing things off your list. It is also about knowing when to pat yourself on the back and recognize the progress that you have made.
My hope is that these suggestions assist you in staying inspired on a monthly, weekly, or daily basis. My hope is that these suggestions allow you to break out of any situational or self-imposed ruts in order to live, be, and do the things that will lead to your on-going happiness. Be encouraged. Be blessed. Stay inspired.