Shereá Denise began working as a Blog Contributor for SOULE in 2015. SOULE is an acronym for Seekers of Unity, Love & Equality. SOULE prides itself on being "a digital destination for news, opinions, life and culture for the LGBTQIA people of color. SOULE uplifts, empowers and inspires pride via the SOULE Website and SOULE Special Events." To learn more about SOULE, please visit To learn more about Shereá's work with SOULE, please visit



I work in a profession where I continuously meet people who make decisions that affect their children without taking their children into account. I meet people whose children’s futures concern me because the adults around them are not teaching the children in their presence how to handle the various issues that come with maturation – like developing their communication skills and learning how to compartmentalize their feelings rather than abruptly acting out or being violent. I see children every day who will spend most of their adult lives recovering from their childhoods.



For the last several weeks, our nation’s male athletes have made headlines and sparked plenty of debates focused on their decision to stand, kneel, or lock arms in response to the National Anthem being sung at the beginning of their games. Jordin Sparks also made headlines for singing the National Anthem with a scripture reference to the book of Proverbs written on her hand. The scripture? Proverbs 31:8-9: “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.”


Intimate Partner Violence In The LGBTQIA Community

The topic of intimate partner violence is one that I have addressed before, not only for SOULE, but in presentations and on my own social media pages. Domestic violence and/or intimate partner violence is something of significance to me, as it something that I was exposed to as a young child and which found its way into my own household in my mid-twenties. IPV is something that we have decided looks a certain way and involves certain types of people, but that is far from the case. It is touching more lives in the few minutes that it takes you to read this blog post than most of us will ever realize.


Sis, Not Cis: An Interview With Avatar Chae

A few days ago, I had the opportunity to watch a video posted on social media by a fellow tweeter, @AvatarChae. In the video, Chaé discussed a variety of topics that ultimately were connected to Chaé’s name preferences and thoughts on gender identity. In the days following, I was able to conduct an interview with Chaé to get a better understanding of Chaé’s thoughts on gender identity, spirituality, and just what Chaé’s role is with regards to amplifying voices and “disrupting conversations” centered on gender and assumptions.



As I consider the many ways in which the Trans* Community has been targeted, specifically in the last few weeks, I have to question the role that the LGBQIA Community has played in alienating those people identifying as Trans*, GenderQueer, etc. In the last several weeks, many Lesbian, Queer, Gay, and Bisexual people have opted out of the conversations about the murders of Trans* Women of Color, about the Breakfast Club radio show boycott, about the various bathroom-related actions/bills, and about the current Administration’s changes to military policies that specifically discriminate against members of the Trans* Community who serve in the armed forces.



It has been over seven months since the election of Donald Trump. That is something like 200+ days since we were all forced to deal with the reality that many of the people to our left and our right (figuratively) did not share the same concerns about women, the LGBTQ Community, People of Color, and immigrants as many of the rest of us. Donald Trump has been in office for approximately five of those months. In that time he has done quite a bit to undermine and reverse important steps made throughout history for those people who do not look like or share the same experiences as him. I am still confused about the people who continue to support Donald Trump. I am not talking about the stereotypical supporters who fit the image of White Supremacy. I am talking about the people who look and love like me, who still manage to justify their President’s actions… or inactions.



May is a month full of celebration. It is a month that is known for beautiful weather, graduation ceremonies, and Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day has traditionally been painted a “certain” way and was intended to include “certain” people. Something about this most recent Mother’s Day was different for me though.


How To Make Our Military Strong Again

“It is time to recognize that sacrifice, valor and integrity are no more defined by sexual orientation than they are by race or gender, religion or creed…”

–Former President Barack Obama, December 2010

As those all throughout the nation are well aware of, the United States is under new leadership. There is a new Commander-in-Chief serving in the White House (or maybe in New York, I can never keep up) and his leadership style is not one that the American people are all that familiar with.


The Conversations That We’re Not Having

Every now and then I find myself wondering about the many conversations that are not being had amongst LGBTQIA People of Color, specifically between the women who love women. I am curious about the affects of our silence on our self-esteem and our relationships. There are so many issues and topics that so many of us seem to avoid and I have to wonder if we recognize the disservice that we are doing ourselves and others by simply avoiding necessary conversations and dealing with necessary feelings.